I think one of the narratives that fucked me up the most is the heart-eyes, instantaneous, smacks-you-upside-the-head, “I was never sexually attracted to/interested in sex with anyone until the moment I met you” trope.
It’s a device used to underscore the inevitability or necessity of sexuality in close relationships, it outright erases asexual and nonsexual people and it invalidates any meaningful friendships/romances they might have.
The idea that truly loving someone means becoming interested in them sexually is toxic and destructive. It leads to a constant barrage of “maybe you haven’t met The Right Person yet!” and a deeply-embedded fear that if someone doesn’t adhere to a standard sexual relationship model, they are inherently not good enough for their partners/friends, they are broken, and they will spend their lives alone because that magic switch didn’t suddenly flip to “sexual with sex drive!” upon meeting a significant person.
This also brainwashes sexuals into expecting asexual/nonsexual people to automatically change if they express interest or love for someone else. It can make those friends or partners wonder why they have failed to inspire sexual desire/attraction in the other person, when everything else seems to mesh well. It can lead to accusations: You must not really love me, then! I’m not good enough for you!
It is harmful to people on all sides of this equation. Do not accept this shitty, lazy trope… and for god’s sake, don’t write with it.
if u are scared or worried or stressed please just remember that even if you mess up super badly, doggies on the street will still tug on their owners when u walk by because they wanna say hello to u so badly
assigned… at birth? holy shit, that assignment must be so overdue, i hope this gender doesn’t effect my GPA
If you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort with physical contact is different for all of us.
THIS IS SERIOUSLY IMPORTANT
people who say ”romantic love is what makes you human!!!!” are actually right. aromantic people are, in fact, gods in disguise, traveling in the human world to observe and study the humans and their weakpoints, in order to eventually eliminate them all and take over their world